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How to stop hating

Updated: Oct 20, 2019

A few weeks ago, I watched an episode of Scandal. Then I went to bed and found myself in a scandal world, writing the script, deciding who to kill off and more. It was 2:00am before I was able to silence my mind and allow my soul rest.

The next morning, I woke up and thought about the night and realised that I now hated Olivia. For the first few seasons I loved her, I would google the clothes she wore and wish to model myself after her. This season however, I kept waiting for the big moment of forgiveness. I kept thinking there must be a colossal turning point, a moment where she did something, that evidenced the creation of her new persona. The moment when we all could see that she had put on the white hat again. Until then, everything she did, seem to be a desperate attempt to claw her way back into the hearts of her friends, and back to the top.

Then I thought, this is a hu


I put myself in Olivia’s shoes. I saw things from her stand point. Sometimes, when you know the answer, you understand things, you can see the big picture, you think, I can solve everyone’s problems. I can do it better, so I will. I can lead, so I must. If I don’t do it, no one else will. If you want something done right, you better do it yourself. We all, sometimes think that way. And if we were able to act out on that thought, we would. Immediately, my perspective begun to change, I once again could understand her, and I once again begun to love her. By the next episode, she was once again giving me the chills.

We can love everyone and everything by changing our perspective, by putting ourselves in their shoes, by seeing things from their point of view. Because to hate someone is to hate yourself, and there is no joy in that.

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